To Jessica on her Birthday

Dear Jessica:

Since this is your birthday, I think it's as good a day as any to let you know what a great girl you are. Now, you know I'm not one to really indulge in what I would consider "sentimental crap", but you are such a great friend to me that I will suspend the moratoriam on feelings and stuff for your birthday, but just for your birthday. I will disavow any knowledge of this tomorrow, or after a couple of drinks at your birthday party.

If I were called upon to describe you, I wouldn't for a moment have a problem. First off, and I know this probably means the most to you, you are a great mom. I've seen you handle your boys with such tenderness and patience. I can't think of any way that you could possibly love or nurture your boys more and I admire you a lot. In fact, I've drawn a lot of skills and techniques from you. So, in case you didn't think anyone noticed your efforts, believe me you're wrong.

I think too that I need to remark on the fact that you are obviously a source of strength for your family. You handle the kids' schedules, work and your home with such style that you make it look easy. But, hours of therapy and and introspection tell me that it's most definitely not easy. It couldn't be harder, but some people handle difficulty better than others. You manage to come through with (usually) a smile on your face and gentle words for your family and friends. We appreciate it!

Besides all of that, you are a great friend to me. Of course, this is the most important part!! We've shared a lot of years together (more than I'd like to really think about) and we've had some good times. No, we've had some great times. I can't help but smile -often I laugh outright- when I think back over the (okay, okay) 13-14 years that we've been close friends. We've accomplished so much! We've gotten our degrees, we've married, we've traveled together (all the way to Europe!), we had babies... It boggles the mind. So much of who we are now has been shaped by our friendship. In fact, if I take out all of the pictures that I have from major moments in my life, there you are, smiling, laughing, or crying right along with me.

So, as you begin you 32nd year, you have to know that I am thankful and blessed that you are my friend. I wish you the best today and everyday. I love ya buddy!!

Now, don't ever mention this to me again. Like I said, I'll disavow all knowledge... What was I talking about? Do I know you?